When it comes to bringing together a stepfamily, people sometimes disagree that stepmothers have a harder time adjusting to stepparents' lives than stepfathers. As someone other as a stepmother never will Be If you are a stepmother or have an idea of what a stepmother's firsthand experience is, it seems appropriate and a good idea to rely on the experience experts, the stepmothers themselves.
According to my fieldwork, the stepmothers agree that the factors that contribute to the difficulty of stepmotherhood are manifold. This article focuses on three reasons why women have difficulties with the stepmother.
- Increased responsibility for household and stepchildren.
- Maintaining a career outside the home.
- Perceived lack of support from spouse, family and friends.
Increased responsibility for household and stepchildren. Stepmothers have the task of taking on more responsibility for the household and stepchildren. Stepmothers have more contact with stepchildren and more contact with stepchildren. The stepmother's reality is that she takes on more responsibility for the household and parents than her spouse. Stepmothers internalize the ideals of the duties of a stepmother and find that even one stepmother Work is "never done". Stepmothers, unlike stepfathers, are expected to develop a relationship that has more impact on children's daily activities, including school, sports, and religious activities, according to stepmothers. The involvement of stepmothers for their stepchildren is often underestimated. Some speculate that the calculation is grossly underestimated because the typical stepmother is a non-native stepmother, meaning that her stepchildren do not live full-time with her. Since the stepmother is not at home, her participation in visits to the birth father's biological father occurs. Due to their more complex relationship, stepmothers and stepchildren have greater difficulties and problems.
Maintaining a career outside the home. In today's economic age, it is not surprising that most stepmothers work outside the home and most of the time work is done on a full-time basis. Working outside the home can be considered helpful as a stepmother's job offers the opportunity to experience achievement, a much-needed opportunity for stress, and additional social interaction between adults. Conversely, 1] occupational demands outside the home, 2] the lion's share of housework, and 3] the upbringing of children who are not their own and who may refuse their efforts are often related to other sources of stress and anger for stepmothers.
The stepmother perceives a lack of support. Stepmothers often notice a lack of support from their spouse, family and friends in matters of parenting. At times, this perceived lack of support enhances the sense of anger and resentment that can co-exist in performing the stepmom roll. Stepmothers may feel a strong sense of guilt as a result of their anger and anger, which can lead to even more problems. Some stepmothers find their partners in the disciplines of the stepchild not supportive. They resent his perceived decision to spend time with their stepmother's biological children when they have children of their own to look after the needs of their spouse's biological children. Some stepmothers resent the stepmother's unfair advantage over the stepmother's biological children to receive material goods. They may feel resentment and anger because they are not recognized by their spouse, family, stepchildren and even their own biological children for their efforts as stepparents. As a result of refusal and review, the stepmother may feel a greater degree of resentment, frustration and disappointment. These feelings are a breeding ground for conflict, greater stress, anxiety, depression and anger.
It has been said that stepparenting is the most difficult of all professions. The stepmothers that I interviewed would wholeheartedly agree. Next time you meet a stepmother, remember that her job is always ungrateful, exhausting and full of emotions. Give her a word of support by acknowledging her parents' efforts in the face of challenges and new territory.